There is one hobby some men are into which is particularly unattractive to women, according to research.

When looking for a partner it’s worth considering what you bring to the table in terms of interests, as well as what you’d be getting up to when you’re apart for a while.

Different romantic partners will have different expectations of how much of your time ought to be occupied with them.

Some folks reckon they should be pretty much joined at the hip with their other half and do everything together, while others want to have time to themselves and hope you’ll have a healthy list of hobbies and interests of your own to keep you occupied.

But it seems not all hobbies are looked upon as favourably and research group Date Psychology decided to ask a group of women what they thought the ‘most and least attractive hobbies’ were.

Many of the ‘most attractive hobbies’ point towards someone who is outdoorsy, creative and thoughtful (Date Psychology)

Apparently women love a partner who reads, while it seems they also really appreciate someone who knows another language, is adept with a musical instrument or can cook for themselves.

There’s a number of other creative and adventurous hobbies which appear to be quite popular among women, so if you’re wanting to get into hobbies which might be looked on well then you should see which among that list takes your fancy.

Of course you should be getting into hobbies because you like to do them, you ought to be putting your own enjoyment and self-fulfilment above attempting to fashion yourself into what you think will be a more appealing version of yourself.

The survey also scoped out the ‘less attractive hobbies’ and it looks like there are a number of nerdy pursuits on there, including being into comic books – which is actually very popular.

Some hobbies are more niche than others, while certain entries on the list are more understandably red flags in general.

It looks like you should probably steer clear of the ‘manosphere’ if you don’t want to be a walking ick to women (Date Psychology)

The research suggests you should probably not try and lecture a date about the merits of cryptocurrency or discuss what sort of porn you’re into, and you should definitely not make a hobby out of arguing with people on the internet.

However, right at the bottom of the list was one hobby which was the most unattractive to the surveyed women and that was being involved in the ‘manosphere’.

If you’re unsure what that is, it’s a bunch of podcasts, websites and forums which say they’re promoting masculinity, but tend to be very heavy on the misogyny.

These places tend to spout some pretty rancid opinions when it comes to women, so it’s no surprise many would consider it an immediate turn-off.

To be honest, steering clear of the manosphere is good life advice even if you’re not trying to appeal to women.

A study examining the behaviours of so-called ‘red pill guys’ has revealed the common warning signs which suggest you could be dating one.

Originally a plot device from 1999 sci-fi classic The Matrix, taking the red pill has since become a saying which has been co-opted by online communities that share toxic views regarding women and relationships.

In the film, taking the red pill allows Neo to wake up from the matrix and learn the uncomfortable truth about the world whereas in men’s rights communities the term is used to denote ‘waking up’ to the idea that the modern world is created for the benefit of women.

The term originates from 1999 sci-fi classic The Matrix (Getty Stock Image)

Various studies on the rising usage of the term have been conducted in recent years, with a recent study – published in the journal Personal Relationships – looking at how people who subscribe to the ‘Red Pill’ theory link to the ‘Dark Triad’ (DT) personality traits such as Machiavellianism, narcissism, and psychopathy.

Conducting the study via a series of interviews with women who are active on the Reddit community r/TheBluePill, which seeks to critique ideas shared by Red Pill communities, the authors spoke to six women between the ages of 20 to 38 who’d experienced relationships with ‘Red Pill men’.

Here are the four similarities found in each of the women’s experiences.

The similarities were as follows: relationship development, coaxing, outward appearances and DT-associated behaviours.

The study was conducted from interviews with six women (Getty Stock Images)

Commonalities among the six women included a tactic referred to as ‘love bombing’ which sees a partner seek to gain control over a partner through the use of excessive affection and attention. The women added this tactic was also used as a method to speed up the pace at which the relationship moved.

The study also revealed that sex was a key priority for the men in these relationships, with several of the women feeling ‘pressured’ to conform to their partners’ expectations.

Emotional manipulation was also a common feature in the relationships, with tactics such as ‘coaxing’ or ‘guilt tripping’ used by Red Pill men to manipulate their partners.

“TRP men consistently displayed self-interest and willingness to use manipulation to meet their needs, portraying themselves to their partners and the world as successful while callously disregarding partners’ emotions in their pursuit of sex or social desirability,” the study noted.

The four warning signs included relationship development, coaxing, outward appearances and Dark Triad-associated behaviours (Getty Stock Image)

The final common theme between the men was a preoccupation with image, including looks, social status and outward appearances.

Several of the women who took part in the study noted their partners’ preoccupation with showcasing career achievements in order to appear more outwardly attractive – a trait which is found in DT personality types.

A couple who are no strangers to spicy cruising have shared the five downsides to their swinger lifestyle.

Bella and Jase have been documenting their sailing journey online, showcasing what it’s like to be in a non-monogamous relationship.

Despite popular belief, swingers aren’t just ‘getting off’ with everyone on-board and there are rules for passengers over international waters.

Though Bella and Jase claim there certainly are disadvantages with swinging, otherwise known as the ‘Lifestyle’.

Bella and Jase are in a non-monogamous relationship (Instagram/@4ourplay.official)

How the community is viewed

Taking to their YouTube channel 4OURPLAY by Bella & Jase, the pair said that society look down on their community.

“Well, ethical and consensual, non monogamous relationships are 100 percent valid and loving relationships,” Bella explained.

“They are not viewed this way by the majority of people.

“Just like most things that go against societal norms, there’s always going to be some kind of backlash in a stigmatised community.”

The cost of swinging

The cost-of-swinging crisis is a real thing and Jase says it’s hard to keep up with everyone.

“So there’s a lot of things that go on behind the scenes, not just the premium of paying to go to be with like minded people, but just what it takes for upkeep to keep these places running,” he said.

They have shared the five downsides to their swinger lifestyle (YouTube/4OURPLAY by Bella & Jase)

“So for us, these vacations, these trips, really are worth it, because that cost is allowing you to go to a place that you’re gonna have the most fun with, the people that you feel the best with, and we truly just love that.

“Another thing with cost is theme outfits. I think people usually don’t think about themes like that, but lots of the time, we buy new outfits for theme nights, and maybe we have a piece of it, but we buy something new.”

The couple said paying for date nights is also a big expense.

Compatibility

Although the pair meet a lot of people, there’s always a risk of a compatibility issue.

Some, they might find physically attractive, while for others, they don’t really click on a mental level.

Also, it can become a problem if the couple aren’t into both people when dating.

Jealousy

It probably doesn’t come as much of a shock when jealousy gets mentioned.

“Of all the issues we see couples struggle with most in the swinging lifestyle, jealousy is probably the one that we see come up most often,” Bella explains.

“Seeing your partner with someone else can easily bring up thoughts of insecurities in your head that can quickly escalate, if not dealt with in a proper way.”

The lack of LGBTQ plus members

Jase said: “First of all, we want everyone to welcome this lifestyle, and while gay and lesbian couples are definitely welcome, you definitely see less of them in this community.

“We have met several couples that are gay and lesbian in this space, but since there’s just not that many, and from our conversation with them, a lot of times they have told us sometimes they just feel a little bit uncomfortable. Not because they don’t feel welcomed, but just because there’s not that many of them in this space.”

If you think you might not be having enough sex, then you came to the right place.

There are plenty of TikTok couples out there who will often show off their ‘perfect’ relationship online.

It makes you wonder if you’re heading in the right direction, or not.

But there’s two things wrong with comparing yourself to strangers on social media.

One, they are just showing you the good bits, and number two, their content is only there to get views.

People statistically have less sex as they get older (Getty Stock Images)

“We have lots of expectations about how relationships are ‘supposed’ to look,” Dr. Logan Levkoff, a PhD specialist in human sexuality, told NBC.

“Many times, this fairy-tale model doesn’t mimic our lives or our realities.”

In terms of how much sex you should be having, the expert says there is no ‘normal’ amount, and it depends on couple to couple.

That being said, a 2015 study used a sample size of 30,000 Americans over 40 years to take a look at how much sex an average person needed to ‘be happy’.

It was determined that having sex with your partner once a week keeps you fulfilled and those who did it more than once weren’t much happier.

Five reasons why you might not be having enough sex

Brits on average have sex 1.1 times in a week (Getty Stock Images)

Stress

We probably don’t realise the impact stress has on day-to-day life, from feeling overwhelmed, irritable and depressed.

Dr Levkoff says all of the above can damper your sex life.

Body insecurity

Dr. Sanam Hafeez, a clinical psychologist from New York, explains: “Body insecurity is a common cause, especially when it’s not only about appearance, but the feeling of being bloated and just not at your best.”

Lacking confidence by being shamed or even embarrassed by the way you think you look can lead to a lack of sexual intimacy.

If you’re struggling, then think about speaking to a professional about your concerns.

People in their late 20s are more likely than any other age group to have regular sex (Getty Stock Images)

Chronic medical issues

“Chronic conditions, like rheumatoid arthritis, pain, fatigue, stiffness, swelling, vaginal dryness and limited function, can also impact libido,” says Levkoff.

Smart devices

Opting to watch the latest TV series, instead of asking your partner how their day went will not be helping.

Taking an interest in your partner can lead to a closer relationship, and a more active sex life.

“The irony of technology is that while it makes us feel intellectually more connected to people, it can isolate us even further from one another when it comes to intimacy,” says Levkoff.

Waning connection

Taking time out for yourselves, rather than prioritising the kids, might be what’s needed.

“Check in throughout the day. A kissy face emoji or a quick message sending love keeps the connection going,” says Hafeez.

“Also, something as simple as walking together after dinner without phones, or dancing, can get good brain chemicals flowing.”

The full study titled ‘Sexual Frequency Predicts Greater Well-Being, But More is Not Always Better’ is available